Marriage Myths (2)

May... God... give you a spirit of unity.
Romans 15:5

"We're just not compatible."
Marital disagreements fall into five categories: money, sex, in-laws, children, and household responsibilities.
Too many couples think if they argue about these things they're automatically headed for divorce. Conflict doesn't kill relationships. What's important is how you deal with it, not the fact that it exists. One woman said, "My husband hates confrontation so when problems arose in our marriage he just walked away. I went ballistic and nothing got settled. Eventually we learned to talk about handling our disagreements; he can't walk away and I can't get hysterical. It works... now we work together to resolve problems.
" Anger is just part of your emotional make-up; God didn't make a mistake when He included it. But He wants you to handle it right (Ephesians 4:26). Being upset doesn't give you license to yell and slam doors.
Solomon said, "A fool gives full vent to his anger... a wise man keeps himself under control" (Proverbs 29:11 ).
Hasty words hurt, and they can't be taken back. David said, "In your anger do not sin... search your hearts... be silent" (Psalm 4:4 ).
In other words, think, listen, and calm down before you react. And never resort to name-calling (Matthew 5:22); it serves no purpose but to intentionally hurt the other person.
We live in a culture of lawsuits and revenge, but a marriage built on retaliation is headed for trouble.
God said "Don't insist on getting even ... I'll take care of it" (Romans 12:19).
You can become physically and emotionally sick by hanging on to bitterness. So release it and ask God to fill your heart with His love.
He'll do it!