Showing consideration

We must bear the 'burden' of being considerate of the doubts and fears of others.
Romans 15:2


In every group there's at least one difficult person. Usually these individuals have emotional hang-ups, deep insecurities, irritating mannerisms and poor social skills.
God brings them into our lives for their benefit - and ours.
Yes, they're an opportunity to grow in grace.
Will we love them as brothers and sisters and treat them with dignity?
In a real family acceptance isn't based on how smart, beautiful or talented you are; it's based on the fact that you belong to each other.
"Be devoted to each other like a loving family. Excel in showing respect" (Romans 12:10).
We all have quirks and annoying traits. Yes, you too! But love is not based on compatibility. The basis for our fellowship is our relationship to God; we're family!

The key is to try and understand where people are coming from. When you know what they've been through you'll be more understanding. Instead of talking about how far they still have to go, you'll realise how far they've come in spite of their hurts.

Another part of showing consideration is not downplaying other people's doubts. Just because you don't fear something doesn't make it an invalid feeling!
People need a safe place to share their struggles - without being judged. And they have a right to expect confidentiality! Only in the safe environment of acceptance will people open up and share their deepest needs.

Confidentiality doesn't mean keeping silent. It just means that what's shared in your group needs to stay in your group, and that your group needs to deal with it, not go out and blab about it to others.

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