Handling Difficulties

Consider him who has endured such hostility.
Hebrews 12:3

Make sure the issue you're dealing with is worth your time and energy.Often it isn't. Ask yourself, "Have I allowed myself to get distracted by something insignificant instead of keeping my eye on the ball?"
TheBible says, "Consider Him who has endured such hostility by sinners
against Himself, so that you may not grow weary and lose heart." Check and see how Jesus handled the circumstances you're facing today. You'll learn a lot if you do!
Don't destroy the other person's self confidence. Stay away from all-inclusive statements like "you always" or "you never." They're not true! Assure them that you have confidence in them and their ability to recover and handle things better next time. After all, that's what God does with you. Correction will do much; encouragement will do much more. Deal with people on an individual basis. Comparisons always cause resentment. Why make the problem bigger? It's easier to be critical than creative, but unless you're willing to help you're not qualified to get involved. Straighten out the problem, not the person. When confrontation becomes a personal attack you destroy your own credibility and end up in a "no-win" situation. Your goal should be to leave them with three things:
(1) a clear understanding of the problem;
(2) the assurance ofyour love;
(3) encouragement and confidence that they can turn itaround, and that you'll help them to.

Are these three things easy to do? No. They call for love, patience and Christ-like character. But when you practice them they produce a joy that transcends problems and is never subject to the actions of others.