Handling Family Problems

... in you all the families of the earth shall be blessed.
Genesis 12:3

In order to bless all the families of the earth, Abraham had to start with his own family. Before a man could qualify for leadership in the New Testament church, they examined his home life (1 Timothy 3:5). Their thinking was, 'If he doesn't succeed there, don't enlarge his territory.' But if you're going to enjoy God's blessing as a family you must learn to cope with difficulties.

So:

1) Try to remember that you're all on the same team. Don't take your frustrations out on your loved ones. Too often, home is where we go when we're tired of being 'nice.'

2) Before you speak, get the facts. Nothing's more damaging than jumping to conclusions. 'Those who control their tongue will have a long life; opening your mouth can ruin everything' (Proverbs 13:3 ).

3) Handle it with wisdom. List all your options and you'll be more objective. That's how you'd handle a problem at work; why not do the same with your family?

4) Find something good in the situation. Scott Peck writes, 'It's only because of problems that we grow mentally and spiritually. It's through the pain of confronting them that we learn.' No matter how bad things seem, every situation holds something positive-look for it.

5) Make sure they know you love them. It's okay to express how you feel so long as you do it graciously. But make sure your family knows you love them. When people feel loved they can weather almost any crisis.

Think: when do you need God's love most?

When you deserve it least!

Try to follow suit.

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Thank You Lord

I was about to send a message to G to ask for financial assistance, and I was hesitating, I pray that I let go and do everything in the right way... then, I check my phone, the message came " transferred 2K ...." Praise the Lord, this is what I need... God is good All the Time!

Yesterday I hand over $100 to MT, she need some money to go to India, my mind was not sure, anyway, I hand over to her the money last night at church, she said she will pay me in 2 instalment, let it be...

This morning, Sharon don't have to go to work, so I left early and do some marketing, thanks God I have resource to pay for the marketing....and we are going to have a nice meal later...

Another Day

Today is Saturday, have to work, need to finish the packing. L came and help out, but when I go near , she run away, what a frustrated action....the worst thing happen is that when the phone ring, she rush to the phone, but it was P called, she pick up the call and tell him will ask me to call him back, she just refused to ask me answer the call, very angry, I shouted at her, the quarrel start, mom was very sad over our quarrel, I cannot control my emotion for what she has done, God, please help me.

Mother Mary, please intercede for me to have more patience and Love.

What is life?

It sound so depress... I saw James in church two Sunday ago, I was shock to see him in this stage, he is so skinny and sickly, I guess he is suffering from the terrible disease call cancer, I don't know what to say to him, just smile with him and wave my hand, I felt so sad, only said prayer for him... last week saw him again, never talk to him, only see him from afar, I ask God give me the courage to talk to him... again this Sunday, met him outside the church, Gina was there and Joshua too, at least I have the courage to shake his hand and talk to him....he said the doctor give him 6 months to live, and his face has no life at all, we encourage him to pray and do not give up, Lord, show him the light so that he can follow you....

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Don't lose your peace of mind

"You will keep him in perfect peace... " - Isaiah 26:3

We lose our peace of mind for four reasons:
1) We try to change the people in our lives.
As you grow wiser you begin to realise that you can't change other people, only God can! And He does, when you back off, and love them as they are. This doesn't mean agreeing with everything they do. It means committing to love them regardless, claiming God's promises on their behalf and allowing Him to deal with them His way, in His time and for His glory. The reason you're stressed out may be because you keep trying to do something-about something you can't do anything about!
2) We try to make things happen when it's not the right time.
'There is a time for everything... ' (Ecclesiastes 3:1 ). If you've raised children you know that one of their chief characteristics is impatience; they can't wait for anything. God wants us to outgrow our childishness so He makes us wait, trust, and mature!
3) We get upset because we're not progressing fast enough.
You can slow down your spiritual growth through neglect, but ultimately, '... We all... are being changed... [by] the Spirit' (2 Corinthians 3:18 ). So learn to enjoy your life while God works on your problems, for you'll always have problems!
4) We push ourselves harder and harder.
We do what we think God wants without consulting Him as to what He actually wants, when He wants it, or how He wants it done. As a result we wear ourselves out.
What's the solution?
'You will keep him in perfect peace, whose mind is [focused] on You, because he trusts in You.'

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